Supporting a Loved One with IBS: How to Be a Source of Understanding

Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) is a very common intestinal disease, affecting approximately 1 in 15% people in the population, many of whom are still undiagnosed. This can be a difficult and sensitive topic to discuss, so if your partner has her IBS, here are some tips on how you can help and support them in daily life. 

Educate yourself: 

The first thing you can do to ensure you support your partner with IBS is to make sure they understand their symptoms and how best to help if they worsen. When you’re panicking and don’t know what to do, there’s no one around to help you, so a little research online can help a lot. 

Early diagnosis: 

With IBS, the earlier the diagnosis, the better. For people who aren’t sure if they have irritable bowel syndrome, there’s a new home test kit that takes about 10 minutes and is as accurate as a hospital test. Home test kits should also have the added benefit of reducing the stress of long-term diagnosis and ongoing doctor visits. 

Be organized and in control: 

One of the ways she can make her partner’s life easier is by making home life more routine. By making an effort to avoid chaos, overscheduling, or lack of planning, your partner can regain a sense of control and begin to feel more in control and mentally balanced. 

Don’t be overprotective. 

When it comes to IBS, your partner is an expert on your situation and knows how ready and comfortable you feel. In some cases, a simple question like “Are you okay?” can cause anxiety, upset your partner, affect your stomach, and cause sudden feelings of urgency or pain. 

Be flexible: 

A study by IBS Screen found that 29 people with IBS canceled social plans because their symptoms worsened without warning. In situations like this, it’s best to speak up, take a breath, and take time to understand that your plans need to change. Your partner is probably more upset about canceling plans due to health reasons. So if you stay calm, they will too.

Don’t play the blame game. 

The most important thing to remember when your partner has IBS is that it’s not their fault. It’s understandable to want to help, but diagnosing your partner’s problems by saying they’re not eating well or worrying too much isn’t helpful. Your partner probably knows that even the best self-control can’t always prevent symptoms from spreading. 

Keep the peace: 

Arguments are a natural part of relationships, but minimizing disagreements can save your partner a lot of pain. Arguing with your partner can make you anxious and upset, which can make your symptoms worse. 

Stay on top of the right foods: 

If your partner has her IBS, there’s a good chance you’re already doing it, but it’s a good idea to see if you’re doing the same. Be aware of the foods you avoid. Knowing which foods to continue eating and which foods to avoid can help reduce symptoms. IBS is just one aspect of your life, not the only thing in your life. Of course, you need to take into account your partner’s situation, but there are many more positive aspects of life, and there are also many interesting topics to talk about. 

Live a balanced life: 

It can be difficult to think about yourself when a loved one is suffering, but it’s necessary. Whether it’s talking a little about yourself, exercising, or reading a good book, it can really help you and your partner break out of the patient or caregiver mindset.

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