It’s no secret that children across the country are subjected to insults, cruel jokes, cyberbullying and physical abuse every day. If your child is extremely upset, it’s hard to focus on anything else—you want it to stop quickly.

At times your child will be teased or their self-esteem will be hurt. All of us have to go through many testing and difficult times with our children. Finding solutions to problems is an inevitable part of life, even if it is not easy or comfortable.

There are steps you can take to ensure that your child is not disturbed:

Try to value your child’s words: It is very important for you to play the role of a good listener when your child is scolded. You can find out what happened to your children by asking them questions:

When your child tells you about something that happened at school, Be open and try to listen to what he has to say, even if it’s hard for you to listen. When he says, try to be supportive but neutral. When you react strongly to your child’s words, he may stop talking because he is worried about upsetting you.

If you were bullied as a child, try not to take what happened personally: If you were traumatized as a child, putting your child in the same situation can trigger painful memories. It’s okay to talk to your child about how they’re being bullied, but don’t make the problem yourself.

The most important thing you can remember when someone tries to harm your child is how people around you or your relatives treated you or your child, which may or may not have happened. Use what works and avoid ineffective or harmful methods.

Do not retaliate against the abuser or his family: While you may be tempted you don’t take matters into your own hands, you can seek help from the law or people around you if needed. Here you should provide your child with some examples of problem solving.

If someone is trying to harm your child, it is very difficult. Try to stop it immediately. But you must always remember that revenge will not help your child or it will not be good for your child. Stay away from revenge and think about where and what kind of help you can get to help your child cope. If necessary, you can seek help from your surroundings or from your loved ones.

Teach your child to respond: Bullies choose people from whom they can get feedback.They tease bored kids and take teasing very seriously. They’re also looking for kids who can’t fend for themselves or who may be under stress. It is important to teach your children how to deal with this problem.

We have taught our son not to be bullied at school and who to go to if he feels unsafe. We role play together and practice not responding to offensive comments. He couldn’t stop the abuse immediately, but he was able to recover from it and find someone to talk to

Practice “best friendship”: Need a friend whose children can’t have negative long-term earning influence. Such friendships can develop with you as a parent. You can encourage your children with their close friends to do something together. This in turn helps them spend more time with their important children.

Get involved in your child’s school: In Florida, every school district is required to have a written policy so that if they are harassed, they can defend themselves.

If an incident of harassment occurs with your child, you should immediately submit a written letter to the school principal for investigation. Then have a meeting with important people. Then ask the school teacher questions and identify specific needs. And then write a written letter discussing what happens next. Always remember that your child will learn good techniques from the teacher that he learned in the classroom in the past. So always listen to the teacher and follow what the teacher recommends. It can be beneficial for you. And follow up these recommendations for about a month and hopefully get good results.

Many chronic bullies find it difficult to change their victim status because other children in the class may be fearful and/or other children in the class may accept the idea that the child is a victim. Therefore, sometimes the best course of action is to move the victim to another classroom. Remember that moving the bully to another classroom rarely helps, because chronic bullying actually involves the entire social structure of the classroom, not just the bully and the victim.

Avoid cyber bullying: Cyber attacks are different from other types of attacks because it is online. The attacker can be very powerful and they can always keep an eye on what the parents are doing. Children who are victims of cybercrime are always afraid of losing their website accounts and the websites are not under their own control and they can’t even talk to their parents for fear of this.

As a parent you can login your child’s devices on your own computer and websites you can control as you like. So that your kids can visit websites according to their age.

Young children can be instructed to only touch certain icons on the home screen of their phone or tablet.

Discuss your help with elders and get help by communicating with them on social media. Find out the password for your child’s social media account by discussing with the adults and you discuss with your child that you will occasionally log into his social media account. And if your child changes their social media account password to not notify you then your child’s access to social media and electronic devices will be blocked. Makes it possible to track the websites your kids visit and what they say, if necessary.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help: You as a parent if your bullied child is being bullied seek help from neighbors and friends to handle the situation. And you can talk to a mental health professional to get help depending on your condition.

Reference https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/7-tips-for-helping-your-child-deal-with-bullyin

Is Your Child Being Bullied? 9 Steps You Can Take as a Parent

https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/bullying

https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/bullies.html

https://www.parents.com/kids/problems/bullying/bully-proof-your-child-how-to-deal-with-bullies/

https://anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk/tools-information/advice-and-support/advice-parents-and-carers/how-can-i-help-my-child-if-they-are

https://www.familylives.org.uk/advice/bullying/advice-for-parents/what-to-do-if-your-child-is-being-bullied

https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/support-for-parents/dealing-with-bullying/

https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/behaviour/bullying/school-bullying-helping

https://childmind.org/article/how-to-arm-your-child-against-bullying/

https://www.understood.org/en/articles/steps-take-if-you-suspect-bullying-childs-school

https://www.verywellfamily.com/ways-to-help-child-overcome-bullying-460827

https://www.debbieausburn.com/post/how-to-help-your-child-who-is-being-bullied